I am not sure that this is helpful to students when all is considered, but I always tell the kids whom I tutor in person that math notation is a language and, like all languages, most of the rules of a language’s grammar are arbitrary. Order of operations are not inherent in the universe; they are a way of talking to each other without confusion and must be memorized like sum, es, est, sumus, estis, sunt or am, are, is, are, are, are. The rule is:
[math]- a^2 < 0 < (-a)^2 = a^2 \iff a \ne 0.[/math]
Memorize it.
Students want to know why? There may be conveniences in PEMDAS, but there is no logical necessity: “a rose by any other name would smell as sweet,” Why is it bad English grammar to say “she am”? Because it is.